explosivecombat: (It's no accident that I've survived)
Solf J Kimblee ([personal profile] explosivecombat) wrote2014-05-13 09:23 am

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The standard example of existential anguish is said to be standing on the edge of a cliff or other high place; there inevitably comes a moment in most self-aware individuals where they experience the realization that not only do they fear falling to their death, but there's nothing stopping them from throwing themselves off. I've always found it strange that a moment of experiencing true freedom like that would be considered distressing rather than a relief; knowing that there's nothing holding me back - that I am in full control of my own choices, whether it's to stand perfectly still or throw myself off - and there is nothing pre-written into whatever it is that I am that will dictate what I do either way is something I've always found calming.

It begs the question, however - do we choose our fears, and more importantly, do we choose how we respond to them?

If nothing is predetermined and everything about our lives comes down to choice, it makes sense to me that our fears also have to come down to choice, whether consciously or not. The part I'm not entirely sure of is the response.

For example, if one is attacked by some sort of animal, it makes sense that one would fear that animal. However, the response to animal attacks tend to vary - some will try to minimize their contact with that sort of animal as much as they can, while others will immerse themselves in it and attempt to desensitize themselves. Is there a particular thing that predetermines what choice a person is going to make?

I'm curious about your thoughts on it; you don't have to detail what fears you have and how you handle them, though if you would like to that might be helpful. I'm more interested in whether you think this sort of thing comes down to ingrained personality - something more inherent, I suppose - or personal choice, and whether such a thing can be changed.

Answer me anonymously if you wish; as always, your response is of more interest to me than your identity, and quite frankly I'm not in the mood to judge either way.

(As for the existential anguish, I've found over the years that I get the greatest satisfaction from neither the thought of staying put, nor the thought of throwing myself off - I've always enjoyed the notion that if I stand on the edge long enough, perhaps someone will act on their compulsion to put their hands against my back and shove.)
zero_charisma: (War of arrows)

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[personal profile] zero_charisma 2014-05-13 02:34 pm (UTC)(link)
Fear's natural, mate. It's part of your instinct; tells ya if you've walked right into a big mess and how much trouble you've landed yourself in. If people didn't feel fear, then you'd have a lot of idiots mucking about in places that they can't handle. If they ain't gonna take the time to toughen up, then they got no right to be there.

The only part of your lil' speech that's true is that you can learn how to not be afraid of things. You stare'em in the eye, and if you walk you'll find that you're not scared of'em anymore. 'Course it's damn hard to do so, which is why we've got a whole generation of soft kids who'd run screaming the moment a Redback drops on their heads. Ain't got a drop of courage in any of their sorry hides, and too lazy to even try. All a buncha no hopers.
doitrockapella: (CONFIDENT ❖ why yes i speak jive)

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[personal profile] doitrockapella 2014-05-13 02:39 pm (UTC)(link)
I don't know what's worse: the fact that that post you just made could very well have been made just to bait me into responding, or the fact that it's apparently working.

What precipice prompted this bout of self-reflection?
awesmazings: (☼ her kitchen chair)

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[personal profile] awesmazings 2014-05-13 02:47 pm (UTC)(link)
For me, being afraid of something has everything to do with, like, stuff that's happened to me before. Like how you said if you were attacked by an animal, you'd be afraid of it.

I mean I guess I could try not to be scared of it if I wanted to. But it's that sorta thing that you can't really help, I guess. Like if someone's...I dunno, really scared of heights, but no matter how much they try or how much they go to really high places to get over it, they're still scared and always will be. Not that they aren't trying to face their fear or that they don't want to get over it, it's just something they can't for some reason. ...If that makes sense.
doitrockapella: (LOOK ❖ god lee stop being such a tool)

[personal profile] doitrockapella 2014-05-13 02:57 pm (UTC)(link)
[...Well, what do you know.]

That's a lot of people you know turning up lately, isn't it? First Fullmetal, and now the family.

They haven't tried to hire you on again, have they?
doitrockapella: (SILHOUETTE ❖ see you next crime)

[personal profile] doitrockapella 2014-05-13 03:01 pm (UTC)(link)
...What about the one you had the falling-out with? Is he here?
awesmazings: (☼ that David played)

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[personal profile] awesmazings 2014-05-13 03:03 pm (UTC)(link)
Well, maybe not always. I think it just depends on the person, or how bad the fear that they have is.
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[personal profile] exeggutorhead 2014-05-13 06:00 pm (UTC)(link)
I don't think fears are our own choice, who the hell chooses to be afraid of something? It's not predetermined, but I would think that getting the fear would come down to other people's choices, and getting over it would be what's your own choice.

People have a personality that'd send them one way or the other, but that's the most predetermined it gets.
doitrockapella: (BEHIND ❖ driver picks the music)

[personal profile] doitrockapella 2014-05-13 06:13 pm (UTC)(link)
Which ones are?

Or don't indulge my curiosity if you'd rather not, but sooner or later I'm going to ask what it is that's got you worried, so.
doitrockapella: (VAN GOGH ❖ more like van gone amirite)

[personal profile] doitrockapella 2014-05-13 06:27 pm (UTC)(link)
Well, that's relevant to my interests. If I'm remembering correctly, this means I apparently have a doppelganger about.

(It goes without saying, but still bears repeating, that I'll make the time to talk with you if there's something bothering you.)
doitrockapella: (BOW ❖ holy shit was that an honorific)

[personal profile] doitrockapella 2014-05-13 06:32 pm (UTC)(link)
[You know, given that this is approximately the nine hundredth time he's casually avoided responding to something like that, she's actually noticing the trend here. Finally. AFTER MANY AGES OF CONCERTED STUDY.]

Are they people I should stay away from? In your professional opinion.
ossifragant: (Φ now it's just what i've become)

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[personal profile] ossifragant 2014-05-13 06:33 pm (UTC)(link)
We fear what we fear.

Some of it probably does have to come down to personality, because I'm certain that there are people out there who overcome their fears or whatever. There's also probably some amount of predestination involved that is merely leading a person to the inevitable conclusion that comes with their personality.

I'll be honest, though-- I'm probably not the best person to answer this question because I fear very little, but I've enjoyed our past conversations.
doitrockapella: (CONFIDENT ❖ why yes i speak jive)

[personal profile] doitrockapella 2014-05-13 06:38 pm (UTC)(link)
You realize that "do as you like" doesn't really respond to the question asked, you know.

But I'll keep that in mind.
ossifragant: (⊗ you don't sleep well at night)

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[personal profile] ossifragant 2014-05-13 06:42 pm (UTC)(link)
You haven't seemed to mind yet.

In any case, I do have my own set of fears but they come from what I am specifically. I can't speak for others like me but there is a set pattern to them anyway from what I've seen.

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